329 | ADHD, Narcissism, and Emotions in Relationships with Jared DeFife PhD

Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Eric and Dr. Jared DeFife, Ph.D. discuss the complicated aspects of ADHD. They also talk about emotions in relationships and narcissism.

Jared is a Atlanta-based clinical psychologist. His private practice specializes in the treatment of adults with ADHD and men’s mental well-being. Dr. Jared was a Harvard Medical School clinical fellow and has been a media expert for Psychology Today and Psychotherapy Networker, The Huffington Post and BBC News.

Dr. Jared talks about his learning difficulties and the interpersonal issues that he faced in school. He also talks about how his emotions changed after he was treated. Dr. Jared also discusses the difficulties of living with someone with ADHD or narcissism.

Dr. Jared talks about the most common complaints that he hears from his partners, as well as the differences between ADHD self-coping or management and narcissism. Eric discusses ways to avoid emotional interference. Dr. Jared explains how cognitive elements can impact how you feel.

Do you listen to your spouse when they talk to you? Dr. Jared discusses what a partner could say to you to be helpful. Maybe you can say, “I heard you” and “I am working to improve.” Dr. Jared provides some great information about ADHD and relationships. This episode may be of value to you and your partner if you find any of these ideas appealing.

You’ll learn:

[02:08] Jared, welcome to the show! [03:18] Jared shares the ADHD story. [05:04] When did you first realize you had ADHD? [06:45] The two discuss signs and symptoms of ADHD that they missed in school. [07:31] Eric, Jared and Jared discuss their learning disabilities. [09:00] Jared talks about his school social relationships. [11:44] Jared describes his journey to the psychology field. [13:14] Jared’s emotional life was transformed when he received medication. [16:13] You don’t need to be worried about being a narcissist. [21:06] Jared talks about how difficult it can be to live with someone with ADHD. [23:40] Do active practices help us to develop conscientiousness? [25:40] Jared discusses the top two complaints he receives in his practice. [28:25] Jared discusses the reasons that partners talk about narcissism. [31:34] What are ADHD coping strategies and self-management? And what is pure narcissism. [34:43] Sometimes emotions take control and you don’t know what to do. [39:09] Jared explains what you can do to regulate your emotions. [41:02] Are you a person who has put a time limit on your relationships? [43:43] Eric shares the experience of a coach who set a timer for their discussions. [46:04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions. [47:20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel. [49:04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful. [52:46] Can you say, I hear you, and I am working to do better! [54:13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show! [56:14] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com Find Jared:

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