Beyond Arguments to Effective Communication
We should resist invitations to argue by recognising them for what they are: attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings. Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of…
Why Nice People Repel Us
Why might kindness be so hard to bear? Why should warmth prove – on occasion – comprehensively repulsive? Why might nausea descend in the face of emotional maturity? Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content,…
Why We Behave As We Do
A key principle governing the natural world is that animals adapt to thrive in particular habitats; what we call an animal’s character is essentially a set of traits that gives it maximal opportunity to flourish in specific circumstances. We humans…
Why Unloved People Hate Themselves
What happens to a child who is not loved properly? The answer one might expect is that they start to hate the person who doesn’t give them the love they need. Far from it. The reality is that the child…
The Conditions of Love
When looking at the odder aspects of other people’s and our own behaviour, there is one simple-sounding question we should always keep close to the front of our minds: what did you need to do in your family of origin…
5 Questions to Ask Yourself Every Evening
It is estimated that some 70,000 separate thoughts hurry through consciousness from the moment we wake up to the time we slip into sleep. To help us understand those thoughts we’ve produced five questions to direct our minds to areas…
The True Cause of Obsessive Thinking
We all are, at times, the victims of one of the cruellest and most remorseless of all mental afflictions: obsessive thinking. But why? Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking…
Evolve To Find Love 21 Day Challenge
Buy Now What’s Really Keeping You From Love Finding love has less to do with having the right pick-up lines or using the right dating apps. Having real love calls…
How to Become a More Interesting Person
We tend to evaluate people on how interesting they are. But we are thereby liable to miss a more acute and relevant issue: how interesting does a given person make us feel? Why in the company of some do our…