The one question you need to understand who you are #shorts #selfcare #importantquestions
There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us: “What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?” We…
A Question to Ask Ourselves When We Are Low and Paranoid
There’s a difficult mood we’re in danger of falling into that’s made up of four elements in particular: low spirits, guilt, paranoia and irritability. It’s in such a mood that we might step back and ask ourselves a distinctive question:…
The One Question You Need to Understand Who You Are
There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us: “What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?” We…
Is Everyone Else Normal? Feeling Painfully Different
Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality but let’s also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike…
How to Become a More Interesting Person
We tend to evaluate people on how interesting they are. But we are thereby liable to miss a more acute and relevant issue: how interesting does a given person make us feel? Why in the company of some do our…
How To Cope with an Imperfect Partner
One of the stranger but more powerful discoveries of psychotherapy is that the average baby firmly believes it has two mothers and that this belief profoundly affects our future relationships. Our newsletter is a treasury of ideas: ideas that can…
Do Stress-Free Cultures Exist?
For those prone to stress and losing their tempers, the Yoruba people of West Africa can offer a distinctive remedy: an unflappable attitude known as ‘itutu’. Sign up to our mailing list to receive 10% off your first order with…
How to Decode Your Body’s Messages About Your Mental Health
One of the most peculiar ideas of psychology is that trauma may end up ‘in the body.’ We can understand that a difficult event might be lodged somewhere in the mind – but how, and by what mechanism, might a…
The Secret Power of Unsent Letters
A general principle of mental health is that the less we are able to express, the more unwell we get it. Our spirits can lighten and our horizons expand once we can find a way to lend outward form to…
How to Deal with Negative Emotions: Daily Proven Techniques
An unexpected and troublesome feature of being human is that we feel so much more than we spontaneously realise we feel. There are emotions coursing through us – of anger or joy, resentment or fear – that lie just outside…