Is Everyone Else Normal? Feeling Painfully Different
Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality but let’s also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike…
How To Be Very Attractive #shorts #dating #attractive
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How Repressed Emotions Make Us Sick
The most curious and hazardous feature of the way we’re built lies in the difficulty we have registering what we actually feel. Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles,…
Why We Think We Are Losers (But Actually Aren’t)
Many of us are haunted by a harsh inner critic: one who is particularly fond of telling us that we are a loser. Here’s why such a critic exists – and how we can silence them. Enjoying our YouTube videos?…
Beyond Arguments to Effective Communication
We should resist invitations to argue by recognising them for what they are: attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings. Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of…
The Lengths We Go To Avoid Love
The idea of trying to avoid love sounds paradoxical in the extreme: why do we take active measures to sabotage love? Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation…
Why Nice People Repel Us
Why might kindness be so hard to bear? Why should warmth prove – on occasion – comprehensively repulsive? Why might nausea descend in the face of emotional maturity? Enjoying our YouTube videos? Get full access to all our audio content,…
Why We Behave As We Do
A key principle governing the natural world is that animals adapt to thrive in particular habitats; what we call an animal’s character is essentially a set of traits that gives it maximal opportunity to flourish in specific circumstances. We humans…
Why Unloved People Hate Themselves
What happens to a child who is not loved properly? The answer one might expect is that they start to hate the person who doesn’t give them the love they need. Far from it. The reality is that the child…
The Conditions of Love
When looking at the odder aspects of other people’s and our own behaviour, there is one simple-sounding question we should always keep close to the front of our minds: what did you need to do in your family of origin…